31 Release Secret Shame from Past Abuses with Heather Dunlop

Episode Description:

Join Heather Dunlop, a transformational coach, as she shares her story of being molested repeatedly from age 8 to 12 and how she found the power of forgiveness to help her transition from living a life of survival to one of thriving. Learn how forgiveness can help us move on from traumatic experiences, unshackle shame and guilt, and take back control. This is a must hear message about recognizing that we are not alone in our struggles and how together we can break the cycle of abuse.

Guest Bio:

Heather Dunlop is a transformational coach. She helps women who have experienced sexual assault or domestic violence transform from living a life of survival to living a thriving life filled with love, joy, trust and prosperity. She does this by listening to her client, helping her to see what is getting in her way and creating new beliefs. Beliefs based on what her client wants, her desired life. Heather has authored a book that will be published in Spring 2023. The book is titled "Release Renew Revive. Unshackle secret shame, Ditch self sabotage and Rise into your personal power" Heather shares three principals she used in her life to overcome the experience of being molested from age 8 to 12. Release is about the power of forgiveness and how it can be applied to overcoming sexual assault or domestic violence. Renew is about how to remove the old survival beliefs that are getting in the way of living a thriving life, and creating new empowering beliefs to bring about your vision life. Revive is where Heather shares how to bring back the joy, trust and love in life.

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Guest Website: https://www.thrivingwomanlife.com 

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Summary:

This podcast conversation features Heather Dunlop, a transformational coach who helps women who have experienced sexual assault or domestic violence to transition from living a life of survival to one of thriving. Heather shares her own story of being molested repeatedly from age 8 to 12 and how it took her until she was 24 years old before she could begin her healing journey.

The conversation focuses on the power of forgiveness and how it can help to unshackle shame and no longer feel the need to keep secrets. Forgiveness is defined as releasing the past, and it is done for oneself, not for anyone else. It is a choice that allows one to take back their power and release control of an experience over their current life.

The speaker suggests starting small by forgiving minor things, such as getting angry at someone for cutting you off in traffic, and then working up to bigger things. They emphasize that forgiveness is an individual process and that it is important to forgive yourself first before attempting to forgive the offender.

The primary benefit of forgiving is taking back control; releasing oneself from being shackled by past events or decisions, allowing one to live in the present moment without shame or guilt. This podcast conversation discusses the power of forgiveness and how it can help us move on from traumatic experiences.

It explains that our brain remembers every single thing that ever happened to us, and if we don't choose to forgive, our subconscious will keep creating beliefs that stop us from forgetting. Forgiveness allows us to remember what happened without being pulled back into the fear and emotions associated with it.

The conversation also compares this process of forgiving to a path in nature which gets wider and more solid as more people walk on it. Additionally, part of the forgiveness process is forgiving those who were witnesses but did nothing about it.

Lastly, the conversation emphasizes that once we have forgiven, we get to choose how we want the relationship with an offender to look like by setting boundaries such as not being alone with them or only exposing ourselves for a short amount of time. This podcast featured Heather Dunlop discussing the process of forgiveness and how it can help individuals move forward after experiencing sexual assault or domestic violence.

She emphasized that the process is not about the offender, but rather about unshackling shame and feeling safe. Heather encouraged listeners to join her Facebook group Thriving Woman Manifesting Abundance or find her on Facebook as Heather Dunlop, and make an appointment through her website thrivingwomanlife.com to work together on transitioning from survival mode to a thriving life.

Suzanne and Heather also discuss the importance of recognizing that we are not alone in our struggles and how together we can break the cycle of abuse.